How you define friendship? How you look at it? What determine the strength between you and your friend? Trust? Honestly? Kindness? Always by your side? Usage? Comfort around them? Can be yourself? Crazy? Maniac? Flattering you? Push your button? Melt your heart? You tell me as different people have different saying.
I had friend, Daniel. He had a friend he knew for 10 years. 10 years of best friend. Recently, thing changed. They are no more friends. Why? Quarrel over some small matter, that’s what I know.
My friend did not talk much what they are arguing but it seems he is over with it. What I know is the cause of the fight is because Daniel feels annoying of what his friend did to him. So he go talk to his friend eventually his friend fight back splitting out everything that Daniel has done wrong to him. In the end, the fight is no more about his friend wrong doing but Daniel’s. Anyway when it has to be ended, it shall be ended. What he brings up is thing that happens after the break. His best friend started to talk bad behind him or so called backstabber. Both of them some time teased and jerked other people but Daniel did not realize that his best friend will backstab him after the break. He did not know that his friend who always stands his side will turn his back against him and backstab him. And my friend just felt so disappointed as he really put in effort for the 10 long years of friendship. Although they are no more friend, but Daniel did not even badmouth his friend. He believes that although they are departed on their own path but he still believes their path will crossover each other’s path again. Till then, maybe they can be friend again. But it seems that there is no more chance at all.
It is when you are in a relationship no matter what it is, you only see the goods in other people? And when both parties break up and no longer together, all the bads start rushing out and cover your eyes till you don’t see the goods in people? That’s when a person will badmouth and backstab another person who are once your truly friends?
Not only after the break of a friendship, I heard story of other people saying even during the friendship, there are also people who backstab other people. Some said because they are jealous, they don’t like that person but because of certain reason they just keep it to themselves till when got chance to do it, they will badmouth about that person.
I do have story for this too… as I have to say cause they are some people who you see they are innocent but in other side of them, you just don’t know what they are capable. Since I mention it so split out for you all to see.
This happen during NS. This bunch of girl friends knows each other during NS. Named Ada, Suki, Karen and Thana. They get along quite well as they take care of each other as much as they can. Until one day, Thana has a crush on one of the boy in NS called Wilson. As coincidence as that, Suki is in same group as Wilson and both of them knew each other. Suki knew bout Thana’s crush which Thana do not want Wilson to know bout it. Being good friend, Suki tried to match them up. The end result, failed as Wilson already has a girlfriend. But what come after it really do shocked me. In the period of Suki’s effort of matching both of them, Suki badmouthed bout Thana in front of Wilson. How? What I know is that every time Suki started topic of Thana’s crush, most of the time she added something after every sentences. Not being judgmental but that’s what other people told who are beside them. I mean Wilson’s friends. It goes like this “Hey, you know… someone got a crush on you but I tell you that person is [please put in your own word, sarcastic/mean words]” something like that.
Does Thana know? Sure she knows and she did not bring it up. The reason, I also don’t know. Not only her, another two know bout it too + me cause I am a busybody. 
But, they still hang out together like there is nothing happen between them. Friendly on the surface, fighting beneath the table.
So, do tell me? It is actually everyone will backstab everyone and there is no people wouldn’t backstab people? And it happens anytime, anywhere? Does telling secret of your friend to other people consider as backstabbing?
Even when friend become enemy or person you hate, you will backstab him/she too? No matter how close you are before or what he/she did for you or what you have did for them? No mercy at all?
No matter how bad is the situation ended, backstabbing a person who is once truly to you is just wrong. No matter what he/she did wrong. What they did wrong or shortcomings that you don’t like are not for you to use to backstab a person. You might not know what that person will do if they know bout it as you might ended up hurt badly by their counter attack. You just don’t know bout that.
