What do you think of this scenario.
Let’s give the person a name, Mariana.
Mariana invited you attend an event in the coming week. You replied that you are willing to go with. Just 2 days before the event, Mariana called and said that she invited a friend (B) too before you on that day; Mariana invited you to the event. And B agreed to go with too. You and B know each other but not close. So, Mariana said that because both of you don’t know each other and don’t want you to feel awkward when hanging out so she hinted you to bait out. Mariana did not reject on that day because you are a good friend so she feel not nice for rejecting you.
I can tell you the friend of Mariana (B) is a guy , Mariana knows B not long ago but they meet each other thru another friend and not close to. They get close and contact recently on another event.
After that incident, I decided not to join Mariana for an outing plan 1 week ago cause I got other stuff to do. Then when, Mariana asked why, I tell Mariana that part of the reason is, Mariana is using me as back up because for that particular event so I don’t feel nice and I decided not to join her for the coming event. What’s Mariana replied is “My bad then”. From what I know bout Mariana, so I did not wanna mess up the issue so I accepted that so called apologize.
Things still ok after that. Till one day, Mariana called up and asked am I free for that night as, Mariana wanna catch up with me. Since I am free that night so I tell Mariana that I am ok with the plan. Mariana tells me she will call back and confirm about the outing as deciding where to go. After awhile, Mariana message and tell me that she gonna skip tonight plan. So, I ended up asking can I come over and , Mariana tell me that she is going out due to somebody invited her for outing. At that moment, I feel that I am just a backup plan for, Mariana that night again. She did not even ask me it is ok to skip tonight plan and straight away cancel it on her own. Although is an undecided plan as, Mariana like to do random act so I did not plan any either. But, just canceling like that just making me feel that I being used again.
If the friend of her did not ask her out, she will continue our plan. So, it means that the friend invited her to hang out, and she cancels our plan without asking me. Doesn’t it make me look like a backup outing plan?
It that the way to treat a friend? Or it is me being too sensitive/naive over something? Opinion, anyone?
P.S.: I don’t know how close she is with A and the friend of her. So, make your own assumption.