Love or Lust?
Are you in Love or Lust?
It’s so difficult to tell.
Love and lust are inextricably intertwined. Lust is ground zero for hormones - it’s nature’s way of bringing the opposite sexes together to mate. In fact, without lust, it’s doubtful that love between a man and a woman would have a chance to prosper at all.
The driving force of the sexual imperative bridges the gap between the almost incompatible brain styles of the two sexes. So lust can be seen as one end of a broad continuum, which may or may not culminate in romantic love.
And love is the most ennobling of human emotions — transcendental, exalted and capable of engendering emotional states, which can make the male of the species “want to be a better man.”
Men fight wars over lust, but they make homes and families for love.
For men, lust is a heady experience; the brain goes on hold and red-hot surges of testosterone run the show. Lust — like love — is truly blind. This is why, especially at the beginning of a relationship, it can be hard to tell whether you’re in lust or love; whether she may be “The One,” or merely a passing fancy who’ll have your blood boiling for only a short while.
This is because men are perfectly capable of engaging in sex before they forge emotional bonds with a woman — and those raging hormones can easily disguise themselves as feelings of love.
The real danger is that both lust and love can rob a man of his natural strength and defenses — and then it’s all too easy to hand his male power over to a woman for sex-ploitation .
Lust is especially dangerous because it causes a man to think with his crotch and throw all reason and logic to the wind. When a man’s in lust he doesn’t care if he and his partner have anything in common. He’s not interested in where she comes from or where she’s going. His brain is only focused on using his key to unlock the door to the secret cave. If his partner’s only in lust, she’ll use this against him; but if they’re both falling in love, this sexuality is a bond.
So how can you tell the difference between lust and love? Here are some examples for you to think for yourself and see which category are you.
It’s lust if:
You’re totally focused on her looks and body
Even before you know her name, you’re already fantasizing about what she looks like naked and what it would be like to have sex with her.
You don’t care about anything she has to say
It wouldn’t make a difference to you if you never had a conversation with her. Furthermore, you don’t bother to return her calls promptly and you can easily go for days without talking to her — until you get horny again.
You only want to be with her to have sex
You make excuses not to spend time with her, except for sex. And if she asks you for a favor, you tell her you’re too busy. But if you have to be with her and not have sex, she gets on your nerves and you find yourself fantasizing about other women.
She’s your booty call
After you go out trolling for tail with your buddies on Friday night, you then call her at 1 a.m. for some drunken action. Ah, the booty call.
What is the booty call btw? Here some information about booty call, when to do it and when to take it.
A booty call is a telephone call, other communication, or visitation made with the sole intent of engaging in sex or other forms of sexual release with the person being contacted. Traditionally this social practice, especially the term booty call, is associated with a person calling another person for a sexual encounter after having already established either a casual or more serious relationship involving sexual relations.
In most instances, a booty call is made when the prospect of a traditional romantic date is highly unlikely (e.g., late in the evening, after midnight or in the pre-dawn hours), thus making it obvious that the intent of the call is for the sole purpose of obtaining and engaging in sexual intercourse.
Most notably, the booty call is an alternative type of sexual relation between people. One can look at the booty call as sexual intercourse taking place between the social constructs of marriage, dating and prostitution. The lure in this case is the mutual satisfaction and pleasure of sex outside a traditional relationship (with all its complexities and commitments). A booty call is typically looked at with the singular purpose of sexual pleasure and is not engaged upon to replace traditional relationships. As such, a booty call can take place with two (or more) people already involved in a relationship, but without the intent of breaking the relationship; however, as an alternate framework for sexual relations, the booty call can meet the urge for intimacy in a period of time or situation that allows for little or no sexual fulfillment otherwise. As such, the booty call becomes a gratifying and efficient option to a drastic change in a social situation, i.e., breaking an otherwise good relationship because of unsatisfying sex.
Some people might think that a booty call is in and of itself a bad thing. Wanting to be with someone for the sole purpose of having sex with them is wrong. I believe for the individual you need to decide for yourself where your morals lie. If you feel for whatever reason, that having sex without strings attached is wrong then you should neither make nor take a booty call. On the other hand, there are those people that can see and accept the booty call for what it is; something that occurs between two consenting adults and nothing more than a physical act. For those people the booty call is totally acceptable.
Everyone needs to decide what is right for themself. If you feel it is morally wrong to make/take a booty call then of course this entire tirade is not only inapplicable to you but you may actually find the entire subject to be repulsive. However, for many people in society today, the reality of life is such that there are such things as booty calls and many of us may experience them at one point in time. When such a time comes you will choose what is right for you. Hopefully it won’t be something you jump into without any forethought. In a time when there are AIDS and other STDs to consider, sex is not something to be taken lightly in any situation. With that in mind, I wish you the best of luck in life, love and sex. And hey, let’s be careful out there.
You leave after sex
After having sex with her, you look for the easiest way to leave. No cuddling, no breakfast the next morning, just “I gotta go.”
It’s love if:
You have great chemistry
You get lost in your conversations, and the hours pass like minutes. You’re more than willing to listen to her when she talks about her day. The chemistry between you is remarkable.
You find her beautiful
Even if you catch her with no makeup on and her hair pulled back while she’s unclogging a toilet, she still looks beautiful to you.
You want to spend time with her
All you want to do is to be with her, whether you’re having sex or not. Even if she tells you that sex will have to wait, you don’t care.
You see a future together
You experience the strange feeling that your life would be totally empty without her. You tell your friends and family that she may be The One, and you’re even thinking about marrying her.
You introduce her to your family
It becomes very important to you that your parents like her, and that she gets along with everyone close to you.
You include her in all your plans
Whether you’re going out with your male friends or taking your dog for a walk, you want her there with you. And if she’s not there, you can’t get her off your mind and sneak off to give her a quick “I miss you” phone call. Of course, you don’t tell your buddies.
You are more romantic
All of a sudden you find yourself listening to cheesy romantic songs and thinking of her. You send her flowers and love notes to work and set up romantic evenings candlelit dinners at home.
You always take her side
If someone says anything even slightly disparaging about her, you immediately rise to her defense. Furthermore, in social gatherings, you always agree with her even if you disagree behind closed doors.
She makes you want to be a better man
She challenges and motivates you. She makes you happy, and you’d do anything to make her happy.
Lust is short-term fun; love is the long haul. Even though the two sometimes masquerade as each other, you should be able to tell the difference. The real trick is in deciding what you want, and that’s up to you.
P.S : this is the longest post I have with just text although I didnot type it all out… I copy and paste 1.. 
Just to share with you guys.
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